Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
Philippians 4:8 NIV
Has this ever happened to you? Someone bursts into the room, marches up to you and sprays Raid, right in your face!
Sputtering, you exclaim, “What the heck are you doing?!?”
You wipe off your face, enraged, and demand an explanation.
“Oh no, you don’t understand. It’s perfume! I just mixed it together in the other room. It’s my fragrance, and I wanted to share it with you,” she says.
Now, of course, this hasn’t happened to you (I hope!), but surely, you have encountered a personality type that I call the “negative naysayer” and the effect of their presence is equally toxic.
You don’t need an expert to assess the situation and report back to you. There are times when you just know what you know.
It’s not perfume. It’s poison.
Just because someone is – fill in the blank…
- a relative
- your neighbor
- a co-worker
- your pastor
…doesn’t mean you have to put up with bad behavior or carping criticism.
Toxic people come in all packages. It’s a shame they don’t have a warning label, like pesticides do. Skull and cross bones on their shirt.
Warning! I am here to:
□ annoy you with a long litany of complaints
□ suck the life out of you with unsolicited advice about your life
□ insist I’m not one to gossip/proceed to badmouth everybody
□ tell you this for your own good because it’s scriptural
Listen. I don’t need to tell you what you already know. If someone comes along and tries to rain on your parade, don’t just reach for an umbrella. Hit the “eject” button.
It’s not you, being selfish. It’s a mandate from God: think about what lifts you up. You can’t do that while paying attention to Soul-Squashing Psyche-Suckers! (Now that’s a tongue-twister.)
You don’t need a scientist in a lab coat or a trauma team to help you steer these biohazards out of your face. Just pivot. Don’t animate or activate them in your own vibration. It’s an inert pile of poison. Don’t give it life.
Return to your own regularly scheduled programming: a “yes” life. A blessed life. Your best life. You don’t need permission to protect what’s precious, what’s right, what’s real. Nah. You got this. Why? Because you know what you know.