
Whether you are trying to tell your own story or share life’s absurdities, one of the most vital skills we posess is our ability to listen to each other. It really doesn’t matter what I’m trying to communicate if no one will listen.
And a big part of listening is responding. It can be a simple nod of your head. “Yes, I hear you.” Or a shrug. “I don’t have a clue.” Or, if someone isn’t making sense, it might mean asking a question.
One day last week, I got a cryptic text. “Is it okay if we use items from the craft fair?” Since I’m in charge of part of the church craft fair, I knew this was most likely from a church member. But who? All I had was a number.
“I could text back – who is this?” I said aloud.
“That would be rude,” said my husband.
“Asking who it is would be rude?”
He nodded.
Pfft. How could asking for more info be rude? Nope. If I wanted to be rude, I’d just ignore it. Instead I clicked the phone icon.
In moments, Caryn and I were laughing. “Your name is in my phone. Why wouldn’t my phone tell you who was calling?”
In a few moments, I had saved her number with her name and I knew what she needed. We discussed work and her daughter’s health problems. I promised to continue praying.
Whenever we don’t agree with someone or don’t immediately understand what they are saying, it is easy to pull back and ignore them. Whatever. Not my problem. And that’s on a good day. On a bad day we argue and we shut each other down.
But God gave us ears to hear not only his word but each other. It doesn’t mean we have to agree with each other about everything, but it only takes a moment to listen and to nod. “I hear you. I hear what you’re saying.”
–SueBE
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June 17, 2021 at 1:24 am
loristrawn
Beautiful. Perfect. I just can’t love it enough!
June 17, 2021 at 1:40 pm
rhcwilliams
Amen, SueBE!
June 17, 2021 at 4:59 pm
suebe
Thank you, Ladies! It was an interesting start to a conversation. “Caryn? Is that you?”
June 25, 2021 at 6:42 pm
cheriewhite
Awesome post. And so truthful. One of the most basic needs in humanity is the need to be heard.
June 26, 2021 at 1:03 am
suebe
It is! And I’ve found myself often wondering lately what it does to someone to be ignored or misheard time and time again.
June 26, 2021 at 1:21 am
cheriewhite
It hurts them or makes them very angry. I spent my 6th grade through 11th grades being bullied and trying my best to ignore them. It only made them furious.
June 26, 2021 at 1:50 am
suebe
Cherie,
I am so sorry to hear this. Bullying is such a plague in our nation. But how can we deal with it among our children and teens when we don’t know what to do with adult bullies. Again, I am so sorry you went through this!
–SueBE
June 26, 2021 at 2:08 am
cheriewhite
Thank you so much, Sue. And you asked such a great question here.