As they say in Vegas, “Whatever happened in 2016, stays in 2016.” We’re just days away from a brand new year. It’s your chance to decide which way to set your compass. Whatever mistakes you made during the year are in the past.
Most of our worries fall into the category of “anticipation anxiety.” I just made up that term, so if you use it, kindly send me a dollar as a royalty. 🙂 Focusing on the worst case scenario can send anyone into a panic.
So here’s what I’d like to propose for 2017. Make a vow to yourself to live in the present tense.
Think of negative emotions as volatile compounds that can burn and scar.
Guilt is like gangrene.
Regret is like rust.
So in the new year, if when you make a mistake, don’t feel bad about feeling bad. That was something you wouldn’t do if you had it to do again – even if it just happened yesterday. Give yourself a break.
Feel what you feel, but give yourself a timeframe. Say, I’ll wallow for the duration of this sad movie, then I’m getting out of the swamp. There’s a meadow over there I can meander through instead.
Don’t look back on times you weren’t yourself and say, that wasn’t me! Of course not. You’re you now. That’s good enough.
Don’t look back and say here’s another reason why that wrong ___________ was wrong for me:
□ Man
□ Job
□ Hairdo
□ Clique
□ Church
Two wrongs sometimes do make a right. That noun that left your life did you a favor. It wasn’t right for you.
Re-hashing is a drag counter-productive, because, in the first place hash is kind of gross aesthetically unpleasant, so having it again is yucky not optimal two times over.
Here’s to a new year and a new you. You’re a blessed, beloved being in all your glory. Whoever you were last year is in the past. Whoever you were a minute ago is, too. Why not take advantage of this unlimited time offer and be yourself in this moment, right where you are?
Peace & Blessings to you and yours!
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December 27, 2016 at 1:22 am
in567
Like what Erma Bombeck said about guilt, that it’s the gift that keeps on giving. I like the nouns that you have to fill in that blank. All of the above (at different times) apply to me! Peace and blessings to you too, Ruth!
December 27, 2016 at 3:57 am
rhcwilliams
Erma was right, girlfriend! Guilt seems to cut across all the lines – religion, nationality, gender, age. Hoping your new year is fully blessed and de-stressed! XO
December 27, 2016 at 2:15 pm
calensariel
Sigh… Could we just opt for a “memory wipe” of all the bad stuff from last year so we really DON’T have to think about it??? Surely that’s not beyond the scope of our technology right now, is it? Living in the moment… Well I got rid of past guilt this year, and made a pretty good hole in worrying about the future. I’ll jut have to give this a shot!
December 27, 2016 at 5:15 pm
rhcwilliams
I think you’re onto something, Lady Calen – maybe you can patent that idea and hire someone to come up with that guilt-relieving technology! Maybe they could even get it into a pill somehow. 🙂 It’d be a big seller!
December 30, 2016 at 1:33 pm
theologygirlaboutmycatholicfaithworldpress
Nice Blog. 🙂 Just checked it out, because I am new her. Blessings from Germany.
December 31, 2016 at 2:33 am
rhcwilliams
Greetings, theologygirl! Nice of you to stop by. Hope all is well in Germany! 🙂 Blessings from America.