I have to admit that I hung on every word of Lori’s most recent post. As a boy mom, the boy and I have had many discussions lately about the rape and the sentencing. The boy has, in fact, been surprisingly patient. Only once have I gotten a mini-lecture. “Mom, you know I know this.”
And he’s not the only one. The two young men who put a stop to what was happening saw the wrong-ness and knew they had to step in. They did this in spite of a pervasive attitude in this country that young women “ask for it.”
We also have a tendency to tell the victims of awful crimes that something bad happened to them but that it is okay. It’s okay because it is all part of God’s bigger plan.
Seriously, I do not think that at that beginning of time God said “this young woman will be raped in order that THIS AMAZING THING WILL HAPPEN.” Um, no. God loves us. God loves the victim. Yes, he also loves the rapist but that’s another issue.
God loves us but he gave us free will. This means that sometimes we make the decision to do some really awful things to each other. Fortunately we also do some pretty amazing things like see a rape taking place and deciding to put a stop to it.
By trying to write off bad experiences as God’s will, we absolve ourselves of all guilt. “God wanted it to happen. There’s nothing I could have done so I’ll just keep right on moving along, minding my own business.”
God put us all here for a reason. He gave us the will to act. It is up to us to decide which choices we will make. Some days we will make bad choices but, with some effort and the help of like-minded God-aware people, we can make more good decisions than bad.
That means that when you see wrong-ness, you need to step up, step out and speak up. God has given you the freedom to act.