One of the “mom-isms” I toss at my son continually is, “It only takes one person believing in you for you to have a fighting chance.” It often nets a teen-age eye-roll, but I think the message sinks in.
I think we’ve all been in the place where we feel like there isn’t even one soul on the planet giving us the support we need. So what to do?
Not getting encouragement is like lack of oxygen to the soul. On the other hand, sustaining someone else at your own expense is soul-icide.
Quiet as it’s kept, believing in God includes believing in yourself as well.
Think of it this way. When you doubt yourself, you also doubt God. He created you just as you are, and at the same time, gave you the elastic, fantastic ability to refine and re-define yourself.
So when you reach that point where you feel alone and unappreciated, you could fold like a house of cards, or you might consider invoking your heritage as a child of God and encouraging yourself.
For one full day, see only the good in everyone. Get specific about naming your blessings. Spin every little thing that happens into gold, even if it seems like hay. Pare down the things (I will say it: and the people) in your life that no longer serve you or even drain you. You know you’ve got at least a dozen “Friends” on Facebook that suck the living marrow out of your bones. Unfriend these psyche-vampires immediately.
You don’t have to be responsible for every lost soul and stray cat that crosses your path, but you do need to take care of yourself so you can really determine who else you are responsible for. One of my own standard prayers is to “be a better steward of all those entrusted to my care.” If you shore yourself up with prayer and positive thinking, you’ll be fully equipped to take care of others.
So be good to yourself. Encourage yourself. Love yourself as God loves you. If you believe in God, do him proud. Believe in yourself as well.
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May 22, 2012 at 8:00 pm
suebe
Ruth,
This is such a vital life skill. We so often think that being positive means welcoming “come what may” and cloaking it in a silver lining. We take such a passive role that we forget, or deny that we may need to eliminate emotional black holes.
–SueBE
May 23, 2012 at 2:08 am
rhcwilliams
That’s so true, SueBE, and for me – and a lot of other women – it’s still a work in progress. Not everyone who enters your life is intended to stay. It takes years to realize that what YOU want really does matter.