How many of you find yourselves praying for God to give you patience with your husband?  You don’t want to nag, but you find yourself stepping in verbally and physically as he helps put away the groceries or dresses the kids.

The solution may be closer than you think – this Father’s Day give your husband a very special gift.  Let him be a father unsupervised.

Seriously.  It just might be the answer to your prayers.

I know that I had uttered a similar prayer myself as I parented our toddler.  “Please let my husband see the wisdom of doing things my way!”  Ok, I’m sure I was a bit more subtle than that, but only a bit.

Then  I went out of town.  While I was gone, I heard a woman talking to her husband on her cell.  Clearly she was giving him instructions on heating the meals she had prepared before leaving home, and just as clearly he was taking the kids out for burgers.  Her frustration was obvious.

Wow, I thought.  Why doesn’t she just let him take care of the kids?  They aren’t going to die of malnutrition in four days.  What a control freak.

You know how sometimes you can sense God crossing His arms and tapping His foot?  Let’s just say that I had one of those moments.  I can do everything my way and continue to fuss at God.  Or I can let my husband use his God given talents to parent.  Since our son is 12, I have to concede that my husband must be doing ok most of the time.  Sure, his idea of an acceptable meal differs somewhat from mine but he sure can make a sledding trip fun.

Maybe if you’ve prayed for your husband to be a better parent, the first step needs to be yours.  It isn’t easy.  I still occasionally find it necessary to leave the room.  Or go lie down.  Or at least close the kitchen window so I can’t hear what they’re up to.  God didn’t create the two of us exactly alike, but He did give us talents that compliment each other if I can have the Faith to give my husband the space to parent.

–SueBE

 

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